Late Birthday Thanks and some sadness.

[mab]

Hello fandom!

I'm so sorry I've been so far away the past few weeks. My grandmother has been nearing the end of her life for the past month and I knew my birthday was going to be a hard time.

Nobody in my family (at home) remembered it and that was a bit of a punch to the gut, but then, as I get older, I'm not asking for much more than an acknowledgement. But fandom swooped in and blew me away and my birthday wasn't bad at all.

I received 60 well wishes in the forms of email, tumblr messages, lj pms, virtual gifts, lj posts, facebook posts, facebook IMs, and gifty things. So Thank you for that! Really it means the world to me. The Saturday after my birthday with my mom, grandma, family and uncle was bittersweet. It was a happy birthday/so long grandma party and you can imagine the awkward feels that inspired.

Anyway. I received word from my mother that my grandmother passed at 11:15 this morning after taking her death with dignity prescription and it was wonderful news. And my fandom friend slr2moons and I were out on our weekly walk when I got the news, so that was nice. I turned to her and said, "you know, I've been grieving for the past 3 weeks and now that it's over, all I feel is relief and thankfulness that she's not suffering and went on her own terms." Cancer is a motherfucking bitch and I feel really blessed that my grandma had the opportunity to take care of her affairs, to say goodbye, and to just let go before it wrecked her with more pain than anyone should have to feel.



Okay... jeez, mab... enough depressing.

Look at the birthday gifts my lovely friends did for me! Thank you all for being so unique and wonderful. The collective creativity and caring in fandom is magical. It's precious. Thank you.


A Haiku

Determination by digthewriter

A Drarry poem and Art

I'm Drowning by nobunakira

A Jason/Percy/Luke fic

Percy Jackson Has a Type by jercydrabbles aka yvieisqueer


A Jason/Percy (Jercy) ficlet

Birthday Jercy Treat by Razielim

The beginning of a new Apollo/Zephyrus series

Creepiness has its Benefits by malkuthehighwind

Comments

[writcraft]

I've been thinking of you today but haven't wanted to intrude. Love, hugs and I'm just an email away if you want to chat <3

[nia_kantorka]

I'm sorry about your loss. Even if it was a relief for your grandmother.
*hugs you tight*

But I'm glad fandom gave you a wonderful birthday and showed its love. And it's comprehensible that you were put out with your family. *hugs again*

[lq-traintracks.livejournal.com]

Wow, Mab, I'm so sorry to hear what you went through with your grandmother. I'm glad you've found that peace now that she has. You're in my heart tonight. <3

[blithelybonny.livejournal.com]

A happiest of birthdays to you, my dear. So sorry to hear about your grandma's passing, but I am glad that it seems to have been more peaceful at the end and that her suffering is over.

Many hugs! <3

[winnett.livejournal.com]

Oh my, I'm sorry about the hardships going on right now... and that your family spaced. My mother died of cancer, too. It is a bitch. I kinda hate it.

Loves to you. And Happy Birthday.

[drarryxlover.livejournal.com]

*hugs* ♥

[alafaye]

*hug*

[tripperfunster.livejournal.com]

Well, I feel terrible for missing your birthday! In my defence, I barely remember my husband and kid's birthdays but YOU always remember mine.

I"m sorry about your Grandma. Cancer is a fucking asshole. No doubt.

[celestlyn.livejournal.com]

I'm so sorry! I know how hard that must be for you. My own mom passed on my birthday a few years ago, so I always think of her on my birthday. It's always a little bittersweet.

((hugs))

[zeitgeistic.livejournal.com]

So sad, but I'm so glad she had the option of doing it on her terms.

[blossomdreams.livejournal.com]

*hugs* I'm so sorry to hear about your grandmother, but I'm glad she was able to find peace and go out the way she wanted to. *more hugs*

[iwao.livejournal.com]

I'm so sorry for your loss, Mab. *hugs you tight*

And Happy Belated Birthday. amor. I'm very sorry I missed it! *hugs you tight*

[fantasyfiend09.livejournal.com]

Cancer is an evil bitch, but you are wise to see the consultation prize she brings: a chance to say goodbye. I'm sorry you lost your grandmother, but I am glad she isn't suffering. *hugs*

If your birthday didn't gp as you wants, maybe you need to have make-up birthday. It's never too late!

[capitu]

*hugs* I'm sorry for your loss, Mab. I'm glad you found peace though. THinking of you. <33

[dysonrules.livejournal.com]

Awwww, much sympathy and a belated happy birthday to you, darling!

*SQUISHES* <3

[who_la_hoop]

A happy belated birthday, my dear. I'm so sorry for your loss. *hugs* ♥

[sophie-french.livejournal.com]

So, so, sorry to hear about your grandma passing. :(( I can only imagine how hard this must have been/must still be. :((

Lots and lots of hugs. ♥

[dicta-contrion.livejournal.com]

I'm sorry for your loss, but glad that you're finding relief in it as well, and that your grandmother was spared from pain.

Very glad you were surrounded by love and good wishes on your birthday! Hope it's a theme that continues through the year. <3

[saladbats.livejournal.com]

I am so glad you had the chance to say goodbye and sit with her decision in the time leading up to the end. And know that there is a huge hug waiting for you from me when I see you next.