I sort of feel a lot of empathy for your daughter. Social anxiety and shyness have plagued me all my life. It was very hard when I was in school. I did the best I could and I wasn't completely incompacitated by it. I did have some friends, but not all that many. Just a couple of real close ones and a handful of friends of friends, but life would be much easier if I were not so self-conscious. I have my parents to thank for it because they were both exactly like that, so it was bound to happen. My ex was extremely extroverted and outgoing, which was ultimately too big a hurdle to get over. My son, unfortunately, is much the same, but he does manage fairly well. It really is a horrible feeling to want so much to be comfortable in front of groups or in social situations and be unable to get a handle on it. You just freeze up and feel very awkward. I've mostly outgrown it, but I'm still very reserved and introverted. Give her a hug...it does get better.